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The First Response
What to do when someone in your church says "I'm not safe at home." A short, practical guide so the first person they tell knows exactly what to do next.
From Eagle's Wings · Equipping the Church since 1996 · Love Does No Harm
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What's inside
Everything you need for the first conversation.
Five pages, written for real moments, grounded in walking with survivors and the leaders who help them since 1996.
The First Response
Six steps you can remember in the moment: believe, ask about safety, listen, do no harm, connect, and stay.
Say this, not that
The exact words that help, and the well-meaning ones that quietly raise the danger.
What not to do
Why couples counseling, pressuring a decision, or confronting the abuser can backfire, and what to do instead.
Recognizing the signs
Coercive control before it's ever physical: isolation, monitoring, fear, and control.
Safety & privacy
How to protect a survivor whose phone or accounts may be watched, and hold their story with care.
Where to turn next
Trusted hotlines and how Eagle's Wings equips your whole team through Love Does No Harm.
"You don't have to be an expert. You have to be someone who believes. That is the whole of it." Judi Noble, Founder of Eagle's Wings
You are not alone, and it is not your fault.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.
Call or text 988 if you are in crisis.
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Love Does No Harm
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The next person who finds the courage to speak deserves to be met by someone who knows what to do. Let that be you.